The Secret to Finding The Best Natural Hair Moisturizer

posted on: February 26, 2015

by Coco Bates of

Finding a great natural hair moisturizer is like finding a needle in a hay stack…unless you know what you’re looking for. The key to finding an effective hair moisturizer that will leave your tresses feeling super soft and conditioned is all in the ingredients. I’m sure you’ve probably used a few moisturizers where the main purchasing decision was either the price or the packaging design. Once you’ve used the product you were let down because either the product just sat on your hair without penetrating your tresses or overtime it caused your hair to become dry and brittle. When looking for a proper natural hair moisturizer you want your product to not only work when you apply it, but you want it to improve or maintain the condition of your hair’s health.

  • Contrary to popular belief, water is excellent in moisturizing your natural hair. The problem with using water by itself is that it enters and exit the hair quickly. You must combine water with other moisturizing ingredients in order to get the best results, which makes water-based hair products absolutely necessary when moisturizing.
  • Humectants are also important ingredients to consider when choosing an effective moisturizer. Humectants attract water from the surrounding areas and absorbs and adsorbs them into and on the hair. Glycerin, one of the most popular humectants, improves elasticity, stimulates hair growth and is a great conditioning agent for dry brittle hair. Other humectants are agave nectar, honey, honeyquat, sorbitol, fructose, hydrolyzed silk protein, panthenol and sodium PCA. It’s important to note that just the opposite will happen if you use a humectant in a dry climate. Moisture will draw away from the hair causing it to become dry.
  •  Lastly, make sure your moisturizer consists of natural emollients that are either in the form of an oil or butter. Most women make the mistake of using only emollients (oils-based and butter-based products) as moisturizers. Using an emollient alone will NOT moisturize your hair. They help seal in the moisture, such as the water and humectants and prevents any moisture from escaping into the atmosphere. Popular emollients are coconut oil,  castor oil, jojoba oil, olive oil, argan oil, shea butter, sunflower oil, avocado oil, mango butter and jojoba butter.

Making sure that your moisturizer has water, humectants and emollients are 3 keys in finding an effective natural hair moisturizer. Pay close attention to how the order of ingredients are listed. The ingredients are listed in descending order of predominance by weight. This means that the ingredient that weighs the most is listed first and the ingredient that weighs the least is listed last. For a moisturizer, you want to find products that contains water being listed as the first or second ingredient. Make sure you implement these 3 key elements when searching for your ultimate natural hair moisturizer and you will never have dry hair again.

Roll & Tuck | Twisted Pompadour Updo on Natural Hair

posted on: February 9, 2015

Roll & Tuck | Twisted Pompadour on Natural Hair | Kyss My Hair

I am happy to present to you in my first blog post of 2015, a twisted pompadour done on my natural hair.

A few days ago, I attended a gala banquet. I’d planned to wear my hair in a style featuring kanekalon hair. I washed and deep conditioned my hair the day of the event. I also blow dried it.

As I was blow drying my hair, I said to myself, “You know what, I’m going to wear my own hair tonight.” I was ambitious and played around with a cross-cross style in the back. It was a fail, so I forwent and settled for a chic, simple French roll and a few rolled and tuck sections in the front.

I’m thrilled that I got my edges to lay down because it’s always been an issue for  me. To do this, I put the middle section of my hair in a ponytail to ensure that it stayed in place. I learned this trick from MsVaughn; it truly is a life saver.

I love this style because it almost looks like I did a lot (at the top), but it was fairly easy. I hope you enjoy this look and perhaps try it out for your next special (or everyday) event. Tag me on Instagram if you try this style out. I would love to see it.

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YouTuber Makes Fun of Natural Hair Videos

posted on: July 15, 2014

YouTuber Makes Fun of Natural Hair Videos

Akilah, also known as Smoothiefreak on YouTube, has created a funny a video that makes fun of the way natural hair videos are made.

In the video she address common motifs such as:

  • 30 seconds of self-indulgent hair angles
  • unnecessary apologies of how you haven’t made videos in a while
  • long pauses that could have been cut
  • Talking to people off camera who the audience cannot see
  • Tricking people into buying products that they just started using
  • Doing length checks when your hair hasn’t grown.

I know this video is going piss of a few natural hair YouTubers, but I find it hilarious and, for the most part, pretty accurate.

Take a peek below.

p.s. This is the woman who also created the “Meet Your First Black Girlfriend” video.

The Big Chop Vs Transitioning | Which Should You Do?

posted on: April 25, 2014

The Big Chop Versus Transitioning |

Going natural can be a challenge and whether we like to admit it or not, hair plays in important role in the lives of most women. For some people, cutting off their hair is a drastic and emotional change. Furthermore, if you are not comfortable with short hair, you may become insecure with yourself and your beauty. In this post, I will present the pros and cons of doing the big chop and long term transitioning.

The Big Chop


  • Fewer Styling Options. There aren’t much styling options for twas (teeny weeny afros), however, once your hair grows out a bit, there are a lot of funky things you can do to spice up your twa.
  • Haters and Naysayers. Whether you big chop or transition, you may still experience negativity. However, there’s something about a black woman cutting all her hair off that gets people all riled up. If you do not have people around you supporting your decision to go natural and do the big chop, you may be negatively affected by ignorant and rude comments.


  • Easy Maintenance. One thing big choppers can boast about is not having to wake up the morning and wonder, “What am I gonna do with my hair?” Wash and gos are as easy as a-b-c at this stage. It’s as simple as getting up, washing or co-washing your hair, putting in a leave in conditioner or curl activator, and going!
  • You’ll Gain Experience in Managing Your Hair. Big chopping forces you to take care of your hair in its infant stages. You go through the ‘oh my goodness I just cut off my hair phase,’ then the ‘so what do I do now phase,’ to the ‘this product does not work on my hair phase.’ I did a lot of experimenting with my hair during the first year and, in my opinion, it was the best time to do it. The reason being you will learn your hair, how it behaves, and what types of products it likes. Knowing this information is invaluable to the overall health of your hair.
  • You’ll Gain Confidence. To me, one of the secrets to looking great is being confident. Cutting off all the hair that society tells you ‘makes you beautiful’ may lower your confidence. However, if you strut with your head up and shoulders back, I guarantee you people will notice and complement you. If they don’t, they’re hating. Though I don’t advocate for letting others define your beauty, it sure feels good to have somebody cosign your look. Sometimes you have to fake it until you make it. I did the big chop, but I wore wigs during my first two years natural. When I stopped wearing them, I was forced to actually face my hair. I wasn’t confident at first, but as time went by, I became more confident and started to really love my hair.

(READ: Monday Chat | How Wearing my Hair in A Puff Kept me from Getting a Relaxer)

Long Term Transitioning (for a year or more)


  • Dealing with two textures. Dealing with strands of hair that are both relaxed and natural hair. Detangling is a chore, and you may find that  a product works well on your natural roots doesn’t work that well on relaxed ends. This can cause frustration and may lead to you to get a relaxer.
  • You May Experience Additional Breakage. The point where your relaxed hair meets your natural hair is called the ‘line of demarcation.’ It is an extremely delicate point where breakage usually occurs. If you are not careful when handling hair, additional breakage may occur and travel up the hair shaft to your natural hair.
  • Relaxed Ends Look Thin. Although long term transitioners may be able to wear rod sets etc., it is difficult to achieve the big hair results from a twist or braid out a lot of naturals enjoy because of the straightness of relaxed hair.
  • Fighting the Urge to Relax. In addition to not wanting short hair, many people do not do the big chop because they want to be able to relax their hair if ‘this natural thing doesn’t work out.’ It’s easier to relax your hair if you know that you will still have the length you desire. Going natural and staying natural requires commitment and this can be difficult when your permed ends are saying to you, “come on, you don’t have to do this. Just relax it. It’ll be just like old times.”


  • You’ll still have long hair. Many women don’t like to cut off their relaxed ends, especially if their hair is long. When women are known for “being the girl with the long hair,” doing the big chop can reduce confidence levels. However, if you transition, you’ll maintain some of that length.
  • More styling options. As opposed to a twa, long term transitioners are able to wear flexi rod sets and buns. Having an abundance of styling options is important to a lot of women.
  • When you cut your hair, you’ll have longer natural hair. Hair grows 6 inches per year on average. If you transition for a year and a half, you may have 9 inches of hair by the time you cut your permed ends off. For some, starting off with this much hair makes all the difference.

There is no right or wrong way to go natural because there are pros and cons to both big chopping and long term transtioning. The key is to find out what works for you. Are you comfortable with short hair? Do you want more styling options? These are questions to ask yourself when making a decision.

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