YouTuber Makes Fun of Natural Hair Videos

posted on: July 15, 2014

YouTuber Makes Fun of Natural Hair Videos

Akilah, also known as Smoothiefreak on YouTube, has created a funny a video that makes fun of the way natural hair videos are made.

In the video she address common motifs such as:

  • 30 seconds of self-indulgent hair angles
  • unnecessary apologies of how you haven’t made videos in a while
  • long pauses that could have been cut
  • Talking to people off camera who the audience cannot see
  • Tricking people into buying products that they just started using
  • Doing length checks when your hair hasn’t grown.

I know this video is going piss of a few natural hair YouTubers, but I find it hilarious and, for the most part, pretty accurate.

Take a peek below.

p.s. This is the woman who also created the “Meet Your First Black Girlfriend” video.

The Big Chop Vs Transitioning | Which Should You Do?

posted on: April 25, 2014

The Big Chop Versus Transitioning | kyssmyhair.com

Going natural can be a challenge and whether we like to admit it or not, hair plays in important role in the lives of most women. For some people, cutting off their hair is a drastic and emotional change. Furthermore, if you are not comfortable with short hair, you may become insecure with yourself and your beauty. In this post, I will present the pros and cons of doing the big chop and long term transitioning.

The Big Chop

CONS

  • Fewer Styling Options. There aren’t much styling options for twas (teeny weeny afros), however, once your hair grows out a bit, there are a lot of funky things you can do to spice up your twa.
  • Haters and Naysayers. Whether you big chop or transition, you may still experience negativity. However, there’s something about a black woman cutting all her hair off that gets people all riled up. If you do not have people around you supporting your decision to go natural and do the big chop, you may be negatively affected by ignorant and rude comments.

PROS

  • Easy Maintenance. One thing big choppers can boast about is not having to wake up the morning and wonder, “What am I gonna do with my hair?” Wash and gos are as easy as a-b-c at this stage. It’s as simple as getting up, washing or co-washing your hair, putting in a leave in conditioner or curl activator, and going!
  • You’ll Gain Experience in Managing Your Hair. Big chopping forces you to take care of your hair in its infant stages. You go through the ‘oh my goodness I just cut off my hair phase,’ then the ‘so what do I do now phase,’ to the ‘this product does not work on my hair phase.’ I did a lot of experimenting with my hair during the first year and, in my opinion, it was the best time to do it. The reason being you will learn your hair, how it behaves, and what types of products it likes. Knowing this information is invaluable to the overall health of your hair.
  • You’ll Gain Confidence. To me, one of the secrets to looking great is being confident. Cutting off all the hair that society tells you ‘makes you beautiful’ may lower your confidence. However, if you strut with your head up and shoulders back, I guarantee you people will notice and complement you. If they don’t, they’re hating. Though I don’t advocate for letting others define your beauty, it sure feels good to have somebody cosign your look. Sometimes you have to fake it until you make it. I did the big chop, but I wore wigs during my first two years natural. When I stopped wearing them, I was forced to actually face my hair. I wasn’t confident at first, but as time went by, I became more confident and started to really love my hair.

(READ: Monday Chat | How Wearing my Hair in A Puff Kept me from Getting a Relaxer)

Long Term Transitioning (for a year or more)

CONS

  • Dealing with two textures. Dealing with strands of hair that are both relaxed and natural hair. Detangling is a chore, and you may find that  a product works well on your natural roots doesn’t work that well on relaxed ends. This can cause frustration and may lead to you to get a relaxer.
  • You May Experience Additional Breakage. The point where your relaxed hair meets your natural hair is called the ‘line of demarcation.’ It is an extremely delicate point where breakage usually occurs. If you are not careful when handling hair, additional breakage may occur and travel up the hair shaft to your natural hair.
  • Relaxed Ends Look Thin. Although long term transitioners may be able to wear rod sets etc., it is difficult to achieve the big hair results from a twist or braid out a lot of naturals enjoy because of the straightness of relaxed hair.
  • Fighting the Urge to Relax. In addition to not wanting short hair, many people do not do the big chop because they want to be able to relax their hair if ‘this natural thing doesn’t work out.’ It’s easier to relax your hair if you know that you will still have the length you desire. Going natural and staying natural requires commitment and this can be difficult when your permed ends are saying to you, “come on, you don’t have to do this. Just relax it. It’ll be just like old times.”

PROS

  • You’ll still have long hair. Many women don’t like to cut off their relaxed ends, especially if their hair is long. When women are known for “being the girl with the long hair,” doing the big chop can reduce confidence levels. However, if you transition, you’ll maintain some of that length.
  • More styling options. As opposed to a twa, long term transitioners are able to wear flexi rod sets and buns. Having an abundance of styling options is important to a lot of women.
  • When you cut your hair, you’ll have longer natural hair. Hair grows 6 inches per year on average. If you transition for a year and a half, you may have 9 inches of hair by the time you cut your permed ends off. For some, starting off with this much hair makes all the difference.

There is no right or wrong way to go natural because there are pros and cons to both big chopping and long term transtioning. The key is to find out what works for you. Are you comfortable with short hair? Do you want more styling options? These are questions to ask yourself when making a decision.

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Actress Adepero Oduye attends the CHANEL Tribeca Film Festival Artists Dinner in New York City

posted on: April 23, 2014

Actress Adepero Oduye attends the CHANEL Tribeca Film Festival Artists Dinner at Balthazar on April 22, 2014 in New York City

Yesterday, April 22, 2014, actors, actresses, film directors, artists, and others affiliated with film industry attended the CHANEL Tribeca Film Festival Artists Dinner.

In attendance was actress, Adepero Oduye, sporting her delicious kinky locks.

The 12 Years a Slave actress wore a short, multi-colored A-line dress and nude pointed-toe, ankle strap shoes. The print of the dress is gorgeous and it looks wonderful on her.

She kept the look simple with white, diamond-shaped drop earrings, and a bold red lip.

I love to see natural hair worn at high-class events. It shows that natural hair is appropriate for formal events. It also makes me all warm and fuzzy inside.

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Monday Chat | What the Death of Natural Hair Blogger, Domineque Banks, aka “Longhairdontcare2011,” Taught Me

posted on: April 14, 2014

Monday Chat | What I Learned from the Death of Natural Hair Vlogger Domineque Banks aka Longhairdontcare2011 | kyssmyhair.com

On April 7, at the age of 27, Domineque Banks, aka “Longhairdontcare2011,” passed away from complications with lupus. In this post, I will reflect on what her death has taught me.

I’ve been natural for four years, and during my first two years relaxer free, I spent countless hours on YouTube trying to learn all I could about natural hair.

I probably only had about 6 inches of hair at the time, so discovering Domineque Banks, aka Longhairdontcare2011, provided me with so much inspiration to continue on my natural hair journey.

Along with other vloggers like Rustic Beauty, African Export, NikkiMae2003, Crown of His Glory, Prettydimples, and kimmaytube, she helped me to see that Black hair does grow and can be styled beautifully.

At this time, I was really enamored by hair journey videos because I loved to see the progression. This was how I came across Domineque’s hair journey video from 2004-2009. It taught me that I had to be patient with my hair.

Domineque got a lot of flack from other natural women for heat training her hair. If you don’t know, heat training is the process of using heat, whether it be via blow dryer or flat iron, to permanently loosen the curl pattern of hair. Among other benefits, it makes hair easier to detangle.  Domineque used a blow dryer and a flat iron to heat train her hair.

The use of heat is a very taboo topic within the natural hair community. It was even more taboo three years ago, when the natural hair movement was in its infancy. For some people, heat training your hair meant that you were not appreciative of the texture you were born with, and this went against the point of “going natural.” Moreover, it is widely known that heat breaks down the protein in hair and can cause breakage.

Nevertheless, Domineque continued to heat train her hair and, at times, she appeared annoyed at people who questioned her hair choices. I would be annoyed to.

This brings me to the first main thing I learned from Domineque’s passing:

Domineque is no longer hair with us. In light of this, such arguments, whether it be about heat use, colour use, or regarding hair texture, seem extremely trivial and irrelevant. 

It seems that in the past year or so, people have not been commenting as much on Dominque’s use of heat on her hair. It may be because people saw that her hair continued to grow, so their arguments were pointless. (It’s important to note that what worked for Domineque may not necessarily work for you. Heat does weaken protein in hair. Her hair is obviously strong.)

But my overall point here is,  how has her decision to heat train her hair affected anybody but herself? Although it seems as if that natural hair community has become more open-minded towards the various ways people wear and do their natural hair, people still have a lot opinions regarding what other people should to do their hair.

Heat usage, colour usage, and differences in hair texture should not separate us. There is no one way to be natural.

The next thing I learned from Domineque passing is that you never know what persons are going through behind the camera. When I logged on to Facebook and saw that “Longhairdontcare2011″ had died, I was shocked.

I don’t think she mentioned that she had lupus. What I knew about Domineque is that, at some point, she was training to be a dental hygienist. This was appealing to me because, at the time, I had plans to become a dentist. I also knew that she has a sister who had natural hair as well.

Other than these two things, I knew nothing about Domineque. That’s just it. When we look at YouTubers, most of the time, all we see is someone who makes YouTube videos.

The more I think about, the more I realize that there may be YouTubers who are suffering from depression, or are victims of domestic violence or rape. I believe many persons are using YouTube as an outlet, a form of therapy if you will.

It’s important that we see YouTubers as human. The fact that many of us don’t is illustrated in the nasty comments left in the comment box that are very abusive.

My sympathy and prayers go out to Domineque’s family, friends, and anyone who was affected by her death. Her presence was felt in the natural hair community. The fundraiser her friend set up, surpassed its goal of $10,000, raising upwards of $17,000 to pay for funeral and cremation costs.

May Domineque’s soul rest in peace.

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